Kid's Zone

spinal cord injury











April 2002
v04.02

Through Life's struggles we desire to find a way to encourage others by bringing HOPE.

In This Edition
Update from Dan
On Sunday, I went to the park with my kids. I watched as they sprinted from the car directly to the sand. Before I could get out of the car, Nicole was building a sand castle and Dani was swinging on the rings. It was absolutely incredible to inhale the cool air and watch them play like they had no cares at all.

I couldn't help but see myself swinging on those bars and playing in the sand with them. I wanted to get up and move Dani aside and have her old man teach her a thing or two. A year and a half ago, I could have done it with ease. The problem was I was too busy with work and my own life and didn't want to take time out of my "busy" schedule to just play with my kids. I would give almost anything to be able to play freely with my kids today...but I can't. I am physically unable to play anymore. Everything I do has to be carefully planned so I don't lose my balance and fall. My energy is trapped in this disabled body. It's my right to ask "why?" or "what?". I look up at God and ask....."what?".

I know asking what is a lot harder than asking why. If I ask why, I conveniently say to myself that I am being punished for something I did. I'm not being punished. The best way to convince you of that is to ask you to think of someone young that you really love...I mean really...really love. Now, even on their worst day would you ever wish anything bad on them? Could you imagine me saying "Nicole was bad today, I hope she breaks her neck"? That would be absurd. Well, that is how I know God was not the one who was punishing me. Translation of God/Christ is Abba...which means Father...which means Daddy. That's the personal relationship I have with God...He is my Daddy. There is absolutely no way he intended for me to hurt. Sin did that all by itself a long time ago in the Garden of Eden.

The other option I have is to ask "what?". That is a lot tougher because I don't always get the answer right away. Right now the "what" for me is to spend more time with those I love and get a Foundation together where people with disabilities can go to a camp that belongs to them. I'm sure the "what" will grow as I go forward. Remember, in the word disability is the word ability. That's what God is interested in...I'm sure of it.

My left side continues to be tight so there does not seem to be a positive effect from the recent operation. However, we remain hopeful. If by the middle of April we do not see a change, the doctor will begin treating the problem with a different type of medication. Regardless of the outcome, I have so much to be thankful for. I feel like the most blessed man alive.

Thank you for the kind notes and continued interest. You will never know how much they mean to me and my family.

Happy Easter!

Dan


Grove vows to lead Escondido water polo team after making miraculous recovery

JOHN MAFFEI
Staff Writer, North County Times

SAN MARCOS ---- Do you believe in miracles? If not, you haven't followed the amazing story of Geoff Grove.

While jogging in Utah in May, an impatient Grove ducked under a railroad crossing, and was blindsided by a train. The result was compound fractures of both legs, broken ribs, a broken sternum, collapsed lungs, a chipped vertebrae on his spinal cord and major head trauma.

For seven weeks, he lay in a coma in a Salt Lake City hospital with his mother, Chris, and sister, Darci, at his side. As bad as the accident was, Geoff was lucky. An avid runner, he was in great shape. Plus, two trauma nurses were in a car waiting at the crossing. They got him breathing and stopped the major bleeding.

Still, doctors in Utah said he took 30 units of blood the night of the accident and he almost died three separate times.

Five months after the accident, Grove is preparing to coach girls water polo at Escondido High. Practice starts next week. "I plan to be there,'' said Grove, 26.

Grove, who is living with his parents in San Marcos, still can't drive, has some vision problems and walks with the aid of a cane. "I'm only about 50 percent back, but I plan to be at practice,'' he said.

Grove's father, Kent, broke his neck in a car accident 10 years ago and is a quadriplegic. He said the aftermath of Geoff's accident restored his family's faith in humanity. Without insurance at the time of the accident, the Groves had to appeal to the community for help to get Geoff home. A fund-raiser July 14 in the Escondido High gym raised $18,000 for an air ambulance to transport Geoff, still in a coma, back to San Diego.

"My kids have always been very involved in sports, so coaches and players showed up that night,'' Kent Grove said. "But complete strangers wrote checks, made contributions. How do you thank those people?''

A day after Geoff was placed at Scripps La Jolla, he came out of his coma, whispering to his father and brother Colin that he was hungry. "I asked what he wanted, and he said a burrito," Kent said.

Kent immediately called his wife, who was still in Utah, and told her "someone wants to talk to you.'' Chris Grove cried when she heard her son's voice.

"She had been through seven weeks of hell, watching Geoff thrash around like he had a severe case of cerebral palsy," Kent said. "And now he was talking.''

Speech therapy has been helpful. Now Geoff is waiting for some insurance red tape to clear so he can begin intense physical therapy.

"I still have a long way to go,'' said Geoff, who has dropped 30 pounds to 130. "From all the fractures, my right leg is about an inch shorter than the other, so I walk with a limp. And my voice isn't very strong, so I can't ride the refs at my water polo matches like I used to. "But I figure a guy with a cane can get away with a lot."


Mr. Bert Decker has joined Whitney Hope Foundation for the purposes of consulting and promotional help in marketing, positioning for speaking and training to our Team. He is excited about the vision and the ministry of Whitney Hope. As a film maker Bert will also be creating promotional and documentary videos for use in communicating the vision of the ministry. In addition, Bert will be the liaison for the first book that will be written on Dan's life!

Bert Decker, CSP, CPAE Speakers Hall of FameŽ, is a major figure in the communications field. He has been on NBC's TODAY Show many times as their communications expert, often commenting on the Presidential debates. He is the author of the best selling book "You've Got To Be Believed To Be Heard," as well as video and audio programs such as "High Impact Communication" and "Creating A Powerful Presence." His most recent book "Speaking With Bold Assurance" is published by Broadman & Holman. Bert is Chairman and Founder of Decker Communications, Inc., now a publicly held company, and also founded Bold Assurance Ministries. He speaks, writes and consults, while personally CEO's such as Charles Schwab and major sports figures like Olympic Gold Medal winner Bonnie Blair and Tom Dolan and NFL All Pro tight end Brent Jones.

Bert is a member of the Speakers Roundtable, an invitation-only association of 22 of America's foremost professional speakers.

For more information on Bert Decker, please visit the following web sites!
Bert's Ministry at
www.boldassurance.com
Bert's Video Consulting business at www.visionvideos.com
Bert's Speaking Association at www.speakersroundtable.com/main.html


From an event attendee:
"From the moment the Intro Video ended to the last moment of his sharing, Dan's story deeply touched us all! His willingness to be truly honest about the depth of the seemingly overwhelming adversities he has been faced with in spite of his young years, coupled with his humble attitude give him an ability to "connect" with the people he is speaking to, from teens to seniors. No matter what "mountain" you may be facing in your life, Dan has the ability to transcend a hope that is bigger than whatever your circumstance may be. We are all truly changed as a result of his visit."

Barbara Rush

Every Little Bit Helps!
Dear Dan:

The main reason I am writing to you is because my husband and I decided that we would like to give monthly to your foundation. In January I knew I wanted a new cause to support and have been waiting for the right one to come along.

Yours is it.

We would like to send a check each month. It won't be big money but every little bit helps.

In Christ,
Pam

**Thank you Pam, and everyone who is supporting Whitney Hope!